Ahhhhh the age-old question……Do you follow your heart or your head?? I don’t think there will ever be an answer to that one, but how about this?? When you fall in love, is it your heart or your head you lose?? We all shout it from the roof tops when we fall in love and lose our heart to someone, but are never quite so willing to admit when we lose our head over someone. But is it the same thing?  I know from past experience I have lost my head in so many different ways when in love. Yet I am happy to admit this, as it helps me, and maybe others, to learn from those mistakes! Because it’s not just when it’s over that we lose our minds, as most people would probably assume.  So how many people would admit to it? or is this just going to be another ‘love myth’??

Aaron started it off and made me chuckle when he admitted to what he had done in the past, ” God I have done so many ridiculous things! The worst was recording a song with a friend and sending it to a girl! I still cringe!!”. Where as Paul said ” I’ve only lost my head when I was cheated on”. Which goes with what I was saying about, how we freely admit to loosing our heads when something bad happens in the relationship. Ash brought up the clichés, that we all think about, “Lost my head?? I’ve certainly never done the ‘running through an airport’ cliché, if that’s what you mean?  And I can’t actually think of any stupid things I have done. Although I’m sure I have!”.  Selective memory there I think Ash lol! Stuu, though, got straight to the point….and a good point at that, “Both, otherwise you’re not in love”. 

The girls, as usual, seemed to have a bit more to say on the matter. Kate started off, “I think, to a point, we all loose our heads when we fall in love. All that matters is that one person. Nothing else.”  Liz backed this up, and was open about her mistakes, “I’ve lost my head while in love, AND lots of money! I took a loan out for an ex, bought him a car and got a mobile contract for him, in my name!! – DOH!!” I can think of a stronger word than Doh Liz! So love must affect our heads, not just our hearts. Emma brought up a scarier side to the matter, “I stayed in a rocky relationship that turned abusive – I married the guy as he promised it was all pre-marital nerves and stress – 4 months into the marriage, I kicked his sorry ass outta the home and am divorcing him as we speak!”  This goes to show how loosing our heads, can actually be quite dangerous for us, when we’re in love. Kelly told another story of how it can not always be a good thing, “I believe our hearts over rides our heads, very easily. I’ve gone against my whole family to be with someone who completely disrespected me but I was too blind to see it ’cause I fell for the lies he told me”. 

Everyone seems to be in agreement over this one, that you can and do loose your head when you’re in love. We all seem to agree too that it’s not actually a good thing! Is it not bad enough that we are giving our hearts away, that we end up loosing our rationality too! I guess it shows a dangerous side to love, and just proves that we need to keep our wits about us!

We all want to fall in love (don’t we??) and we see it as all flowers and hearts, and indeed it can be. But from the people I have spoken to, it’s made me realise that it’s one thing to give your heart away but a completely different thing to give your mind away. This isn’t to put a downer on love though. ‘Cause, c’mon. It’s lovely to be in love……..as long as you manage to keep your head 😉